I mentioned in my last post that another secret to a recent good performance was clearing the air, and I believe this to be 100% true. Sex problems in relationships often stem from intimacy problems, which stem from a division between the couple.
My girl and I went out for sushi, and we had a big fight about a big topic. It's something that is so big that it's always going to be a problem between us; it's just a matter of how often it comes up. Things looked pretty bad, but I laid it on the line for her over a long drive in an open, vulnerable, but somehow ballsy way. It's very hard to describe without giving details of the conversation, but I want to leave that sort of stuff out of thing blog. In any case, she cried, and I damn near did, too.
We both felt like there was a huge wall between us knocked down, and we had really intimate, beautiful sex, really connecting like never before- certainly in a way we haven't done it in months. Afterwards, we were both giddy and almost high.
You have to break down those walls, people.
Then again, a few nights later, I had one pretty good performance and one downright lousy one. Either it was just the wine that made me good, I have all new barriers to break down, or I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about.
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